for the Professional High Achieving Single Woman of Faith who...

...loves God, wants Love and wants Sex too.

Here's how to do it without guilt, confusion or

...ever compromising Your Faith

Yes! You can have all 3 and more.

The Book on This Page Will Show You How.

HE SAYS ALL THE RIGHT THINGS…but you still don’t know what he really wants.

He takes you out. Opens your doors. Sends morning texts. You like him. You think he might be the one. But... you’ve been here before.

And the last time, it ended with:

another emotional soul tie
sex you regretted
a spiritual spiral and
a man who swore he was “God-fearing” but never led with integrity.

You told yourself, “This time will be different.” But how will it, if you don’t ask what actually matters before sex ever happens?

You can be sacred, sensual, and deeply strategic.

You don’t have to:

compromise your values
lose your femininity
become guarded or harsh
wait until marriage to have the right to desire
or keep repeating the cycle of "Christian confusion"

You can be spiritually grounded, emotionally clear, and fully prepared.

That’s what this book gives you.

And it's written by a Sexologist who walks by faith.

INTRODUCING:

9 Things Women Should Ask a Man Before Giving Him Sex

A candid, faith-based, and strategic book for women who want to:

Protect their body AND their beliefs

Stop over-giving without clarity

Overinvesting in men who are not vested in making them their wife

End the cycle of "almost chosen"
Make Spiritually Aligned Sexual Choices as a woman of faith
Ask the right questions before giving access

DISCLAIMER: I Wrote This Book So That...

you'll stop getting caught up in the heat of the “sexual” moment and giving a man the goods before knowing if he's qualified for those goods.

you can stop ending up with fathers you’ll have to explain to your kids...ones you knew weren’t ready in the first place.

single women of faith can be empowered to know what WILL happen should they decide to give a man sex or not. No guessing necessary.

you can avoid sexual incompatibility in lifelong covenant and find out what too many wives wish they had found out before marriage instead of after.

you don’t over invest in men because of sexual tension but instead actually embrace the sexual tension and make sexual and relationship choices from power, not pressure or horniness.

This Book is the Real! None like it for Single Women of Faith

But this book is not for...

The Single Woman of Faith who wears her celibacy as a badge of honor and looks down upon the woman who struggle with celibacy.

Women of faith who are able to successfully pray everything away and never feel the "freaky deaky" feelings, never get aroused even when ovulating and never interact with men alone and don't even want to.

The "pray and wait" single woman who never talks about intimacy with a man nor does she see the need to as she is waiting on God to send her the perfect man where sex will be magical and they'll never be issues because he's "sent from heaven" *in my Keyshia Cole singing voice*

l love you but this book is not for you boo.

THIS BOOK IS FOR...This is for the single woman of faith tired of being celibate, confused, and ghosted.

The single Woman of Faith who feels what she feels sexually but is tired of being ashamed about it.

The single Woman of Faith who’s tired of being told to pray about it but never told what to actually do about it.

The single Woman of Faith who's had many struggles with celibacy and desires a mentor who can put her on game on what things to ask Tyrone when it comes to sex.

The single Woman of Faith who’s done being told whether she can go to a man’s house or not because she’s grown enough to make that decision for herself, but instead, how prepared she should be in having this conversation if she does go over to his house before anything goes down.

The single Woman of Faith who's tired of being afraid, ashamed and feeling betrayed by her own body for feeling the way she feels about something that's so natural and more.

Realize this is normally the things I teach in my private high end mentorship program as you won't find it anywhere else. You'll only find them in this book, 9 Things Women Should Ask A Man Before Giving Him Sex

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Here’s What’s Inside The BOOK!

INTRODUCTION - Here you'll be given the blueprint of the journey you're about to embark on. Don't worry...I'll be with you every step of the way. It won't be easy but it will be attainable as long as you allow me to guide you to freedom land of Your Sexual Success. Just remember, I ain't new to this Boo, I'm true to it. The Harriet T of Your SexLife is ready to take you there.

MY STORY - I was once like you...sexually frustrated and fed up with it. Here I share my journey with how ashamed and used I would feel after sex and why I decided to become celibate, how long I was celibate, when I made the decision to be celibate no more and why. Get your popcorn. It's a good story Boo and will inspire you to keep reading to get to you own story of Sexual Liberation and Sexual Success before you're ever married.

YO(U³) (YouCube):
You’ll Uncover what you didn’t even realize was ruling your relationships and sex life.
You’ll Uproot the belief systems that have kept you stuck in silence, shame, or struggle.
You’ll Unlearn the falsehoods about your sexuality, your role as a woman of faith, and what it means to be “good.” Because healing doesn’t start with more information. It starts with inner excavation.

E.O.P.™ YOUR SEXUALITY - (Embrace. Own. Protect.)

ACT I: EMBRACE - This is where you stop running from the parts of yourself that are real, raw, and sacred. You'll embrace your subconscious mind, your new paradigms, your visions of the life you really desire along with your sexuality. No more shunning the very things that make you the sexual being you really are. Instead you'll say yes to your sexuality without a side of apology, confusion, or contradiction as this is about remembering who you were before the programming even started. It’s about embracing the version of you who already knew she was powerful.

ACT II: OWN - This is where you stop shrinking and start standing. You’ll own your grown, your healing, and your full voice, not just the parts that feel acceptable. You’ll stop asking for permission to be the woman you’ve already become. You’ll tell the truth about the ways religious sexual repression distorted your view of both God and sex. You’ll come home to your body, not as something to discipline, but as something to listen to. You’ll surround yourself with voices and support systems that pour back into you, not drain you. Most of all, you’ll own your sexuality, not as a performance, not as a product, but as a piece of your freedom. You’re not becoming sexually healed. You’re realizing you already are. This is where you finally believe it.

ACT III: PROTECT - This is where you stop giving your sex, energy, love, or attention to anything or anyone who hasn’t earned the right to receive it. You’ll protect your space with unapologetic clarity and choose your peace first, not last. You’ll protect your sanity in a world that tries to gaslight and guilt you into submission. You’ll define your boundaries, hold them like gates, and understand that protecting your sexuality is protecting your power. You’ll stop defending your no and start honoring it as divine. You’ll learn the exact ways to set boundaries without yelling, overexplaining, or disappearing. And you’ll finally understand that your sexuality is not up for negotiation. It is sacred, sovereign, and yours alone.

9 THINGS TO ASK HIM - You can easily skip to this chapter to get right to the "9 Things". That's your right...but I assure you if you do that, you'll miss the solid foundation laid for you in previous chapters in order to be able to ask a Man these things with the confidence, the unction and the empowerment necessary to get the answers in which you seek. These 9 things will not mean as much if you have no foundation in which to ask them. Remember, I gave you the blueprint in the intro and I'm your guide. I will lead you here Boo. Just be patient and soak in all previous chapters as you will need them to digest the 9 things that will be based on 9 key things: Psychologically, Financially, Relationally, Healthily, Spiritually, Generationally, Mentally, Emotionally and Intimately.

CONCLUSION/RECAP - Here I conclude all the chapters into one thing just for you...transformation. After a detailed recap, I conclude with the powerful call for you to take action and create what it is you want relationally and sexually. At this point, I assure...you'll be empowered to do just that.

🧠👑 The New You After This Book

(As in, the woman you become after reading and applying what’s inside)

👁️‍🗨️ What You’ll See Differently

You’ll stop confusing silence for submission and celibacy for safety.
You’ll no longer give anything — not your time, emotions, intimacy, or sex — without requiring something first.
You’ll know that faith and femininity were never meant to compete — and you’ll live from that knowing.
You’ll stop performing purity and start practicing power.
You’ll realize that trauma is not your identity; liberation is.

💬 Who You’ll Become

✨ Once you’ve embraced the journey inside this book, cover to cover, you won’t just know more. You’ll be more. You’ll become the kind of woman who...

🔓 No Longer Feels Guilty for Wanting Sex, Love, or God...at the Same Time

You’ll understand how your faith and your femininity were never meant to war with each other.
You’ll walk away from religious sexual repression, not God.
You’ll stop living in fear that your desires make you dirty or disqualified.

🧠 Rewrites Her Subconscious Programming

You'll identify the stories running your life that you never even gave permission to.
Instead of suppressing your sexuality, you’ll embrace it with clarity and consciousness.
You’ll shift your paradigms around men, your body, and your pleasure... without shame.

🪞 Owns Her Sexuality Like a Grown Woman

You’ll stop waiting for a relationship to “validate” you sexually.
You’ll no longer give access before getting answers.
You’ll define what being sexually healed means for YOU, not what religion, society, or an ex told you.

🧱 Knows How to Set Boundaries Without the Breakdown

You’ll learn how to protect your peace, your space, and your sanity.
You’ll implement five clear boundary-setting strategies...for your body, your time, your emotions, and your access.
You’ll stop feeling like you have to explain or apologize for protecting yourself.

💡 Sees Herself as the Prize and the Portal

You’ll recognize the 5 ways we attract/connect romantically and which one you’ve been overusing or underusing.
You’ll start attracting people who see you clearly because now you see you clearly.
You’ll learn how to stop leading with lack and start moving from overflow.

🪬 Heals in Layers, Not Loops

You’ll stop reliving trauma as identity.
You'll stop performing celibacy just to feel worthy.
You'll know when you're growing, not just surviving...and own that growth.

💃🏽 Becomes a Woman Who Is:

Rooted in faith, but no longer ruled by fear.
In tune with her body and no longer ashamed of its needs.
Clear on what she wants romantically, spiritually, and sexually...and ready to receive it.

You’ll become the woman who creates the 'Ships n SexLife of her dreams,
not out of frustration, but from Liberation.
Because when you are Liberated, you are the architect.
And when you are the architect, you don’t wait for the blueprint;
You are the blueprint.

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I had so many questions and so many misconceptions when it came to sexuality and OEV answered them ALL and more. I'm so grateful for her teaching and her commitment to helping ladies go from repression to liberation. If you're looking for a mentor who's been there and done that and will break down the bible so that all can understand when it comes to relationships and sex, then there's none better to lead you into liberation than her. Thank you OEV. I'm forever grateful!

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...and provide them with tools to reign from the inside out. She shares her life experiences to pass on sound wisdom. Her teaching, coaching and mentoring ladies to free themselves from erroneous thinking concerning love, sex, relationships and gender issues. Before being introduced to her material, I was just a young lady struggling to actualize into womanhood. I was sexually repressed/ oppressed, ignorant, sheltered, and closed-minded. Although not sexually “experienced”, I was darkened in my thinking towards sex, my body and femininity. Unfortunately I had been groomed by Evangelical Christianity, society and my upbringing that my body was shameful and sex was dirty. I had been taught to believe that desiring sexual expression outside of “marriage” was sinful. I had been taught that women were to be “kept” or “pure” while men were to be forgiven for their sexual expressions and escapades. Since studying the bible in context with OEV, I have experienced breakthrough and have begun to renew my mind concerning sexuality. I now know what the bible says, in context, concerning sexuality. And moreover, I am able to “study to shew ‘myself‘ approved unto God.." and I no longer experience ANY shame concerning my sexuality or desire to express it."

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The Sex 4 Ladies workshop was so much more than I expected. I enrolled in hopes of learning what is sexual sin & what is not. I learned that plus so much more. I learned what is sin, in general, and what is not. This workshop opened my eyes to things I’ve learned over the years by simply trusting others knowledge & follow their teachings. OEV taught us to search for the truth for ourselves. She provided guidance & resources for personal study of God’s Word to set us on a path to, not only sexual freedom, but freedom from the bondage that religion can place on people. I’ve been seeking & finding on my own, growing deeper & closer to the Most High. I will never be the same again.

Thank you OEV".

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Though I was on my way to letting them go, her Sex 4 Ladies workshop confirmed that it was finally time to lay them to rest. I've never heard anyone as passionate as OEV when it comes to liberating sexually repressed and sexually frustrated women. She takes her time to answer every question and break down each teaching with the bible as her foundation. She's truly a gem for this generation and then some."

Octavia E Vance

(OEV)

I help High Achieving Women of Faith embrace their Sexuality so that they can create the 'Ships n Sex Life of their dreams without compromising their faith.

Your Favorite Sexologist, Octavia E Vance, aka O.E.V., takes women from sexual frustration to Sexual Liberation in 12 weeks so they can create the ‘Ships n Sex Life of their Dreams without compromising their faith.

Her mission is to empower women of faith who are tired of struggling in their relationships and their SexLives. She helps them heal, reclaim their desires, and build thriving connections on their own terms. Through her work, women are transforming not only their intimate lives but also their families, communities, and financial futures.

With over 200,000 followers across social platforms, more than 4 million views on her livestreams and videos, and thousands of women around the world who have tapped into her content, products, and mentorship for over a decade, OEV has solidified her place as the #1 Sexologist for women of faith.

After almost 21 years of marriage, Octavia is now navigating life co-parenting five children and redefining love, leisure, and pleasure on her own terms. She shares her journey of healing and reclamation through her Substack LOEV Letter, She’s AWOL, where she guides women to break free from outdated beliefs and step boldly into their sexuality, power, and pleasure, without shame and without compromise.

Octavia lives in Texas with her five incredible children—Precious (18), Princess (16), Prince (14), Priya (12), and Promise aka “Baby Man” (10).

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